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An Anniversary of Champions (Long Lasting Marriage)


The act of marriage is what brings us together….today.

In living marriage, one realizes it is hard.

My parents are celebrating 56 years of marriage.  Their marriage is standing on the Biblical love of Christ and forgiveness….forever and one day.

As an illustration, two people fall in love.  It is important to realize that these two people were raised differently but also have different belief systems, at the time.  With this in mind, I believe it is harder today rather than when my parents were young.

Now, kids have the added bonus of “life at your fingertips.”  There are cell phones, constant access to cable, social media has exploded.  You cannot even poop without posting about it on your multiple social media websites.  My parents fell in love a long long LONG time ago.  They were 16 and 18 yrs old.  See, first came conquest (according to daddy) …  uhm… LOVE (according to mom).  My parents married 56 years ago, today.  56 years.  Wow.  That seems forever ago considering I have only been married 24 years.


Mom and Dads wedding picture

Going to the chapel


Next came chaos in the form of bad haircuts and homemade clothes and a beatin’ or two. Shane, Kim, Tera, and Brandi.

The Family circa 1973

The 70s and it all broke loose.

Martha and Pop....Wow

The 70s led to this….

Shane & Gayla = Heather, Leigha & Nick, Stephanie, and Corey

Kim & Joe = Paige (Kaleigh & Jack), Amber & Sean, Aaron (Aiden)

Tera & David = Alex & Kristin (baby), Kelly, Maritess, Jonathan, Jonas, and Isaac

Brandi & Bart = Victoria & Ben, Alyssa & Jay, Grayce, Noah, Daniel, Jude, and Hunter

To emphasize, their love boils down to 4 kids; 4 in-laws; 20 grandchildren; 5 grandchildren in law; 5 great-grandchildren (Hunter is the only “twofer” in the bunch…he is a grandchild and a great-grandchild.

Forever Family

Family Ties that Bind.


All of that craziness led to TRUE love.

True Love Forever

55th Anniversary

On the negative side, they did not know a thing about what MARRIAGE was going to be like.  It must be remembered that these young kids had (have) excellent family support.  On the positive side, they knew they were in love and then they buckled in on the roller coaster of life.  Above all, I have learned so much from these two human beings.  My work ethic, my steadfastness, my love of Christ and family, faith, and forgiveness.

Books on Marriage

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What Does Comfortable Mean

What Does Comfortable Mean

What Does “Comfortable” Mean?

What does “comfortable” mean to you?  According to Websters Dictionary, it means affording or enjoying contentment and security.  Okay, so what does “contentment” mean?  It means feeling or showing satisfaction with one’s possessions, status or situation.

That is the world’s view.  So, according to the world, I need to be secure (home, money, job) and I need to feel satisfied by my home, money, and career, to have the possessions that I deserve.  A sweet little life where it is all wrapped up, with a pretty red ribbon.

Is that the answer?  Is that the answer to a good life?  Great job, making great money, buying great toys and bigger houses…..2.5 kids, a dog, a cat, and a fish…a manicured yard, well educated/rounded children and peace wherever you go?

If this is the life that you want….then stop reading and good luck to you!  If you want more out of life, more than money can buy, then keep reading on!

God Does NOT Want us to be Comfortable!

He wants us to be up and moving and going.  We need to sincerely pray to Him and ask Him to send us where He is working…then when something comes up, all you have to do is GO.  He doesn’t call the equipped, He equips those whom He calls!

My husband and I have lived an exciting life.  We married young, had kids young and we fought, oh so much.  He wasn’t walking with the Lord, and I was walking very slowly.  He was saved at an older age and even though the fruit wasn’t very big…it was there, and it was growing in God’s time, not mine.  I learned very quickly that I was not my husband’s personal little Holy Spirit.

We have walked through several fires, with little grace and forgiveness.  Moreso, we wanted to hurt those who hurt us and we allowed that bitter fruit to penetrate every ounce of our hearts.  I’m sure that devastated God.

We’ve Gotten Older

We’ve learned to lean not on our own understanding, but to lean on God and remember that His grace is sufficient.  We are currently walking through some hot fires….we have lost so much, over the last 2 mths.  We have lost loved ones, we have lost respect towards some people, we’ve experienced a loss of innocence, and we’ve had our eyes open to many many truths.  Every day, there seems to be a new thing.  One where we are now not saying “God, you aren’t funny,” but we are standing there, shaking our heads, knowing that He is continuing to refine us.  As painful as it has been, we have drawn closer as a family unit and as a couple, and we have most definitely drawn closer to our Lord.

I have more peace than I’ve ever had and my circumstances have gone from “comfortable” to “chaos.”  It seems as if we are standing in the middle of a field and God is getting us with some pretty good zingers.  We are standing strong in His Word, and we are hanging onto His truths and promises.  We aren’t trying to independently walk through this world “I do it myself” mode, but we are hanging onto God’s belt loops, and we are following our Daddy through all this muck.

Comfortable, in my Terms

Is an unmanicured yard with weeds and dead plants, everywhere; 4 dogs that shed horrendously…our cats are living in the house, our pigs try to escape and our chickens refuse to lay eggs more days than not; a scary job, making little money, raising 7 children..all with their own needs.  Leaving a place that we thought we’d never leave….to go towards the unknown.  We are no longer detail-oriented people. We are merely trying to follow where He leads.

If you don’t know the Lord as your personal Saviour….please savor these next steps and pray with a yearning heart.

We ALL deserve death.  That’s why Jesus came, to save us from our sins and be the ultimate sacrifice, on the cross.  Please know the plan of salvation and what my God can do for you and how He can change your life.

Salvation is Really Simple

Admit that you are lost; Believe that the Lord Jesus Christ came to earth.  He came as 100% human and 100% God.  Jesus came to die on the cross.  He did so with your name on His lips. Confess that you are a sinner, separated from God; Repent, turn away from your sins; Ask God to come into your heart and you will be saved.  Baptism would be next, but baptism does not save you.  It is done in the act of obedience to what Jesus did, and it is a public profession of your faith, to show the world of your decision.

Please, don’t put off tomorrow what can be done today.  Our days are numbered.   You can take this moment to ask Christ into your heart.  Please reduce the number of hell by 1.  Secure your mansion, in Heaven.