Adoption, Everyday

A Twinge in the Air

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Twinge:  “A brief experience of an emotion, typically an unpleasant one.” Did I wake up with the slightest feelings of twinge-ness (is that even a word?  Yep, I did.  There was a distinct twinge in the air.  No reason for that twinge, other than spending over 3 hrs at the ATT store last night.  That was good.  Fun times.  So.  Much.  Fun.

I slept well, once I fell asleep.  There was not a moment that I got up, even to pee.  Hunter stayed asleep.  Score 1 for Trazodone (though our next feat is to get him off of that).  Still, there was a twinge.

I got up, hustled around and got a few things done.  Kids were up, eating and doing chores.  Hunter was ready to take his boatloads of supplements/juices/meds.  Once all that was done, I realized that we did not go to the grocery, last night.  Therefore, there was little to nothing to eat.  That also meant, that after I chiropractor visit, I had to go to the said grocery store.  I would also be hauling 5 of my kids with me.

Let’s all just have a moment.

Five children.  Grocery store.  Walmart, at that.  Enough said.

Walmart Clicklist

Hello beautiful!  I had been doing that, lately because it saves me a ton of money. I am all about saving money and becoming debt free.  This particular week, Big Daddy and I were going to make a date night out of the ATT store, Walmart, and dinner.  ATT had other plans, so our meal consisted of eating a Papa John’s pizza in the van and zero groceries.

Luckily, we have eggs for breakfast (thank you chickens), and I thought I would just bundle all my “to do” things into one morning.  Yep.  That didn’t happen.  I thought well if I go to the chiro, bank, and consignment store to drop off a receipt, I will just pick up some lunch at a fast food place (we have nothing here for lunch).

Nope, due to the fact that fast food is killing America, I opted out of that.


In my quest to do all the things, I thought I could whip up my grocery list, to be super efficient.  While doing said whippage, I checked to see if there were any available times to do Clicklist and pick it up today.  I scored!  There were some evening slots available, so I hoped onto Wal-Mart Clicklist and out added all my grocery (and non-grocery) items to it.



By doing that, I was able to get all my little bits of running, a mini lunch run at the Walmart deli and all my little peeps were happy.  Big Daddy was happy because he didn’t have to do the pickup.  It’s all good, man.


Guest Blogger: Judy Nelson

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From time to time, I have people contact me in order to do write an article for my blog.  Today, this blog comes to you from Ms. Judy Nelson.  Enjoy.

 How to inspire a child to study

When it comes to things concerning children’s education, a good number of parents will agree that it’s no easy task. Kids are naturally curious, savvy and very energetic. It requires a great deal of effort to steer them towards the right lifestyle. From simple courtesies to complex algebra – every parent’s joy is in seeing their children learning new, helpful things. Especially when the time comes to school excellence.

Usually, most kids can grasp subjects taught in school quite easily. They find different ways and conditions that they use as school motivation – a pushing force towards excellence. However, some kids are smart but cannot find the right motivation for them. Or they experience setbacks understanding particular subjects. Such kids can feel discouraged and uninterested in school work.

What do we do as parents to help our kids when they struggle? As a parent, you must guide your child towards his first successful steps in academics. In cooperation with their teachers, you must ensure that you create comfortable conditions for your kid to study. You should put them in the environment where they will easily find study motivation. This can be achieved with the following set of tips.

  1. Find your child’s muse

The foremost essential thing is to understand what motivates your child to study. While words of encouragement work for some kids, little rewards as a sign of appreciation make others feel happy. Some children would study expecting the nice presents for good performance. Find out how to make your child more motivated towards studies and try to use it as much as possible.

  1. Don’t rush

Every child has an individual temp of studying. For instance, when you are going through a new phrase in a foreign language, don’t rush your kid through a sentence, like “Trabalho científico exclusivo de profissionais” immediately. Start with individual words in this sentence, like ”exclusivo” and then proceed to other words. You will eventually remember the sentence and kid wouldn’t feel that the studying is overwhelming. You also should be familiar with your child’s learning pace.


  1. Create conducive surroundings

Some kids tend to get art ideas when they are close to nature, while some get ideas for school assignments when surrounded by colorful things or cool background music. Some need to spend time in silence. Whichever way works for the kid, assist them in making it possible. In some cases, drawing for kids or hanging images around helps to hasten the understanding of a topic that they had difficulty grasping.

  1. Encourage different learning methods

In the previous tip, art for kids was highlighted as a useful stimulant. Here’s another method you could try: use a phenomenon called muscle memory. According to it, some children tend to remember details more when they do it by themselves. This can work for subjects like Biology where pupils need to draw life cycles of certain insects or skeleton of the human body.

Other children might find it easier to learn from watching videos or listening to audio lessons than reading. This is normal – the child should be comfortable enough to use any learning method that works best for him.

  1. Let them take the lead

When studying at home,  let your kid choose what they will study this day. Besides building a sense of responsibility, you are helping to boost their self-confidence. It would also help you to understand more clearly their areas of interest and subjects for understanding which they would need support. We always choose for them from their infanthood because we want to make things right. As they age, they might want to achieve in life something completely different from what we planned out. We should give our kids chances to set topics for themselves, and encourage them on their path.

  1. Be your child’s best friend

How do you make your child open up about their math problem if there is no trust between you? Some kids might refrain from studying because they have no one close to help with difficult parts. Build a comfortable interactive space around you and your kid where you can share everything with each other. Feeling that mum or dad would be there to support can be a big source of inspiration for them. Maintain a close bond with your children and create positive vibes around them. You would be surprised at how far they go.



Improving on my Blogging Skills

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I have been studying, reading, taking notes, brainstorming, and all sorts of mind numbing things in regards to my blog.

My blog was started about 6 yrs ago, on another platform, to record our adoption story with our 6th child Jude.  I moved over to WordPress and continued to do a little here and there.

Now, I want to get serious with my writing.  It is very therapeutic for me, especially during this time with Hunter and his illness.  This is very much an outlet for me.  I want to be able to do more, revamp some things, make some posts a little sharper with better headers….ya know….sprucing things up.

I have completely organized my entire house and vehicle….I’ve organized 10 yrs worth of digital pictures and edited 98% of them.  I’m running out of things to keep me sane, so this is what I’m going to do.

Here are a few series that I want to do:

  • How to begin getting out of debt
  • Budgeting
  • Biblical Submission
  • Soup Ebook
  • Organization tips
  • Parenting from baby’s to young married
  • Self Preservation/Mental Illness
  • Doing things on a budget
  • Special needs/Medically fragile children
  • Homeschooling multiple age groups
  • Adoption

Those are just a few of the things I have planned….I want to start doing more on my other social media platforms.  So, I’m still growing/reading/learning and I’m excited about all that this could be for me, personally.

You can subscribe to this blog and I will be trying to send out emails (once I figure out how to do that LOL).  Here are my other social media sites.

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Give me some love so other people can find my site….the more eyes, the more chances of someone else out there being/living/helping cases like Hunter’s.

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Never be any different than who you are.

Always be true to yourself.

Stop putting on a mask for every place/person you go/meet.

You be you.

Let your yes be yes and your no be no.

Love yourself.

It took me a long time to be okay with who I am…and to be honest, I still struggle.  I have been told for SO long that no one will love me, no one will listen to me, no one will believe in me, no one will take me seriously, I’m too much, I’m too outspoken, I’m too loud, etc.

Now, bear in mind, it was NOT my family telling me this….these lies came from “friends” or people I thought I trusted.  My family loves me and has done nothing but edify me and love me.

I am loud.  I am outspoken.  I do speak my mind.  I march to the beat of my own drum.  I do not color inside the lines.  I do not conform.  I never will.  There were times when I tried to cover up those traits up.  I tried to play the game.  I tried to make friends and be “normal.”

Let me tell ya, it was exhausting and I broke.  I mean, I did not just sort of chip a nail, I broke in half.  I shattered.  I was in a dark dark place…I guess it was the year my granny went to see Jesus.  That was the same year I lost 2 children due to the lies of a social worker (must be noted that we had STELLAR social workers after this loss…this particular gem of a human, did not need to be a worker)….I snapped.  I snapped so badly, that when I called the nurse to tell her that I needed an appointment, the dr must have overheard us and he took over phone call because he thought I was suicidal.

I was not.  I would NEVER do that to my family.

Once he realized that I had the support of my family, he prescribed me some anti depressants to help even me out and get my mind in a better place.  The meds did just that.  I was able to see a bit clearer and I realized what I was doing to myself.

I did a lot of self reflection and I examined my friendships, my hobbies, my marriage, my walk with Christ, the foods I thought I liked, I mean every single detail.  I did not leave my house for a long period of time.  I just parented, wifed, and self reflected.  I relearned who I am, what I stand for, what I like, what I don’t like, and what I would and would not accept.

Now, there are times I still revert back to that old mindset but then I quickly remember who I am and what I will allow and not allow.  I have learned to stand up for myself and believe in myself.

Never forget who you are.

Never forget WHOSE you are.

You are a precious person in Jesus’ sight.

He loves you even when you do not love yourself.

Reevaluate your life.

Keep the good and eject the crap.

Believe in yourself.

Love yourself.