I do believe I may have found my tiny ship of order….at least for the time being.
Corraling The Chaos of a Large Family. I have kids. Lots of kids. There are also my extra kids. Kids are everywhere.
I don’t see myself as having a “mega” family because I don’t. When I think of a “mega” family, I think of the Bates family or the Duggars. I’m just a snowflake in a blizzard compared to those families.
I have 7 kids. Also, I have 2 bonus girls who come around. Oh wait, I also have a son in law. That’s it.
Just Big Daddy, me, Bug, Peach, Gigi, Boo, Catfish, Little Man, Zebra, Hannah, Morgie Loo, Eye Candy, and Black Bart. I don’t feed them all, every day…on max, I feed about 9 people a day…again, this is a small family, to me.
I do not believe in giving a kid a cell phone until they are 16 and driving.
Yes, I’m the oddball out and yes my kids have received backlash for my decision, but seriously…what does a 10 yr old need with a phone. Granted, some circumstances require a younger child to have a cellphone (divorced situation, latchkey kid, etc.), but we are a 2 parent family, and I’m always home. My 11 yr old is not going to text me while he is in the bathroom needing toilet paper and I’m in the living room. It is as simple as that.
All that being said
I have a daughter who is married…which yields me a son in law (gasp and sigh). A son who works and a daughter who is old enough to have a phone, but lost that privilege (yes, if I’m paying for it a cell phone is a privilege, not a right)….then there is Big Daddy and me. Our schedules are nuts, especially with a medically fragile child and another child in a traveling baseball league. I never know where everyone is at.
I forget to tell the kids about important doctors appointments. Sadly, I always forget baseball (thankfully his coach sends a reminder text). Also, I forget appointments that are not in the realm of my medically fragile son. I’m getting older, so I just merely forget and the kids (and Big Daddy) are tired of telling me the same thing 500 times. To the kids, however, the most important thing they want to know is what our menu for the week is and if they all want to come to eat here.
I have *finally* found my saving grace. I LOVE it. The kids tolerate it, and Big Daddy doesn’t pay attention…but it helps me, and that’s what’s important 🙂 It is a SHARED calender called (so sad I have to look at the name because I forgot it) TimeTree. It is free, and it spans across iPhones and Android phones. All you have to do the primary person (me) has to set up the account, and then I invite everyone else. They accept the invite, download the app, and we are good to go. I have titled our calendar as “Family Calendar” because you can have other ones on there as well.
In this calendar, we each have a color and our name (mine is Eagle Eye LOL). We add to the calendar all our appointments, work schedules, and mainly my menu. If the kids see something they like, they text me and say they are coming for dinner. Once a week, I give a kid a night, and they choose the menu for me. So, I’m guaranteed one night a week with all my kids. They are thrilled, and I’m excited I don’t have to figure out what to cook once a week 🙂 We add birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, and our upcoming “cake eating” preparations days.
In my opinion…I freaking love it!