The Life We Never Expected: Filled with personal stories and biblical encouragement, this touching memoir by two parents recounts the highs and lows of raising children with specials needs, ultimately directing readers to the God who promises us peace and joy, even in the midst of trials.
It is no secret that I have special needs kids. My kids “stuff” is a broad range of childhood depression, to reactive attachment disorder, to fetal alcohol syndrome, to single sided deafness and the list goes on and on.
I will tell you, this book hurt my feelings. It did not hurt my feelings in a bad way, but a humbling “I never thought of it like that” way. I sat here, reading, with tears in my eyes because the last couple of days have been HORRIBLE and I’ve thrown up my hands and said “I. Am. Done.” I, then, read “this is almost unbearable, and it’s almost worth quitting, but the sun is on its way. Hang in there, brothers. The light always breaks.” (page 29)
It has been a really bad time, in our household. I’ve struggled. My kid has struggled, which means ALL my kids struggle. I, literally, was at the end of my rope and ready to just say “I am done” when I read this “This is almost unbearable, and it’s almost worth quitting, but the sun is on its way. Hang in there, brothers. The light always breaks.” (pg. 29).
This book is raw. It is painful to read. It is also full of hope and wisdom. I have hope. I not only lean on Romans 4:18, 20-21 “Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, “So shall your offspring be. Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised.” I have these great words that I can utilize on those hard hard HARD days “the weapons of the true battle include silence, prayer, thought, clinging onto a recently read Scripture passage with my fingernails, singing through gritted teeth, reading a prewritten prayer out loud, reaching for Jesus through the mist of confusion or unanswered prayer, stilling myself in his presence, and remembering that he is good and faithful and kind.” (pg. 43)
I could go on and on about this book….I have read it while my daughter, who has RAD, is raging all around me. It has given me perspectives that I have not ever thought of and I appreciate that. I will be drawing a name for this book on July 16, 2016. Just like any of my social media posts to be entered. I wish I had all the money in the world to send this book to all my friends who have kids with struggles….eye opening.
ABOUT THE BOOK:
What do you do when hard or painful circumstances turn your world upside down, resulting in a life you never expected? Andrew and Rachel Wilson grappled with this question after both of their children were diagnosed with regressive autism. Refreshingly honest, this book explores the highs and lows of raising children with specials needs, reflecting on the broader question of how to cope with suffering of all kinds. Sharing personal stories from their lives and encouragement rooted in the truth of God’s Word, Andrew and Rachel highlight lessons they’ve learned related to fighting for joy and thriving in the midst of trials—ultimately pointing readers to Christ, the One who promises to make all things new.
Link to purchase this book on Amazon.