Happy 8th Birthday, Catfish!
6 yrs ago, a shy, quiet, non verbal little boy entered my life. He was not big as a minute, he had no play skills, he didn’t smile……fast forward to July 31, 2012 and he is an 8 yr old boy FULL of energy, joy, talkativeness, imagination and a smile that can melt your heart. I’m so blessed that the Lord saw fit to let me raise this precious soul.
Adoption is not easy. When you (I) had the idea of adoption, I wanted: International (Ethiopia). Boy. Baby. I had my plan and I wasn’t going to stray from it. If you want God to laugh, just tell him your plans. I’m sure He was belly laughing at my lofty ideas. International was a no-go because of funds. So, we started the foster to adopt classes, and again I had my plans: Adoption only (no fostering). Boy. 1 kid. Baby. Child of color. Well, the decided to grant me part of my plans. I blessed me with a baby (10 mths) and he was mixed. He also chose to GIVE me a 2 yr old nonverbal daughter and I was fostering with intention of adoption. He also had plans to give and then take away. I choose not to speak of that because even after 7 yrs, the pain is still unbearable.
My plans: stop the process and accept no more. God’s plans: Give me what He wanted me to have.
I got the call on March 28, 2006. I met the children on March 29, 2006 and they moved in March 30, 2006. My plans were THROWN OUT THE WINDOW and God’s plans ensued. He gave me a 6 yr old daughter with Reactive Attachment Disorder, brain damage from neglect, abused, ADHD, ODD, OCD, FAS blah blah blah. He also gave me a son, 2….described above….and they were white LOL….and our adoption was delayed for 3 yrs. What a rollercoaster ride, it has been. We have seen doctors, therapists, specialist, court hearings…..and you know, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I encourage those, reading this blog, to lay your plans aside and pray for God’s guidance. Pray for His plan, in your life and not your own. Your own leads to pain and His plans, though still have some pain….there is peace. There is constant reassurance. He will be with you, in the heart breaking times and the good times. He loves you and He loves these children. You don’t have to have a blue eyed blonde haired little baby to fulfill your life….He may want you to have a child from India, Ghana, California that is not what “your” ideal was but is definitely His ideal. Step out of the box. Be open to anything….foster to adopt (http://adoptuskids.org); international adoption; special needs (in state or international http://www.rainbowkids.org or http://www.reecesrainbow.org) adoption; private infant adoption of any race (http://www.bethany.org or http://opendooradoption.org); send out letters to everyone you know telling your story and asking for help. If anyone knows of a woman that intends on adoption…..have them pass your letter onto them (it works); send your profile to your adoption attorney, to different agencies….if you have any questions regarding any of these choices, please leave me a message and I’ll be happy to give you information.
Here are a few pictures of yesterdays events! So blessed with my Little Soldier. Cake made by my FABULOUSly talented friend….you can find her at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Teresas-Sweet-Tooth-Confections/187207721303397